Have you ever written something and then read it a few days later...ahem. I think I wasn't as clear in my last posting as I'd intended. I appologize for seeming to say that supporting one another when we have diabetes was worthless. It is not and that was not what I intended to say, although it sounds like that if you read the post.
What I wanted to say, is I feel like there is this general acceptance (although I think most do not realize it) that because of diabetes we are some how less capable of certain things (like birth, for instance.)
I do not hide my diabetes (when I said it was private). I wear my pump clipped to the outside of a pocket, and happily explain it to folks who inquire. I check my blood sugar in public, but I don't draw attention to myself when I do. All that is to say, I hold myself responsible for my diabetes. Not my husband, not my children, and not my parents. I'm 27 years old. It's my job to take care of myself for them and for me.
The POINT of that last post was that I felt like the subtle message I was getting when reading other posts was that a person with diabetes was less capable in mothering, or in birthing, or in whatever BECAUSE of the diabetes. Maybe that was not the intended message. But to someone like me, who looks for it, I felt like it was there.
You are NOT less cabable because of your diabetes. In anything. That's my opinion (again, not a doctor). I apply it mainly to birth because that is where I have experienced it most profoundly challenged in my own life.
Could you be less capable because of your diabetes? Absolutly. But, it is MY and your responsibility to take care of ouirselves so that we are capable. What's to stop us from doning anything like anyone else if we ARE in control of our sugars? If our A1C's are as "normal" as possible?
We feel the need to discuss big life decisions with our doctors. Can we have a baby doctor? What will mariage look like for us doctor? Can I go backpack Europe Doctor?
With baby # 1 I asked my doctor if I could give birth naturally (he functioned on the paradigm that women with diabetes could not birth naturally). With baby # 2 I told him I was birthing naturally, and changed forever the way he has to look at a women like us when we say we're birthing from now on.
I take care of myself. I don't ask my doctor if I can have babies. I tell my doctor, I'm pregnant!!! It's wonderful, no stress in getting pregnant. (am I being irresponsible? I don't think so, because my A1C is always at or less than 7.) Todd, dear husband, has never met my endo...he doesn't need to. I take care of myself for him, for me.
I don't want you to feel guilty! I want you to feel INSPIRED. Take care of yourself and do What YOU want to DO!
That's what I'd intended to say in that last post. Sorry I did seem to have an attitude ;) love, j